elitism

so today i went to my friends dance recital. she was really good, but i didn't like the atmosphere of the place. like, when i was a dancer, things were so much different. my teacher must've been evil mchigh-standard pants because she set the bar super high. these kids were good and everything, but the costumes, the songs and the staging weren't what i was expecting. it's just a different style i guess, but who am i to judge, you know?

well, my mom thought she could judge all she wanted. she pulled the show apart...ripped it to shreds. i mean, i don't think she was rude about it, but she couldn't stop talking about how much lower the standards are here and how things are so mediocre here, this could've been better, "that wouldve never happened in mrs. betty's show" etc etc.
i didn't like that at all. like, it's cool if you don't like something, but you don't need to beat into the ground how much better you've done it. that's not constructive to me. it made me realize how much of an elitist attitude my parents have toward everything. they approach a lot of things with predisposed notions about how they should be, and if things don't exceed expectations, they were shitty or unorganized...or whatever.
i don't like the attitudes my parents have about anything, even towards each other. they are extremely contradicting in everything they say. i'll keep the examples short. my mom expects my dad to do things for himself because he's the man of the house, yet she talks about how she 'wears the pants' and doesn't like him taking part in things and hates the traditional family picture of the self-sufficient man w/simple, happy wife. my dad hates when my mom tells him what to do, but when she doesn't tell him what to do, he does nothing and waits around for her to make a decision. ugh! i just wish that they could see that they both have faults and could make a compromise about things. they're both good people, but they can't see the whole picture and the little details. they see one or the other...and it bothers me a whole lot.

i've been thinking about that for a while, and needed to get it out. thanks for listening. =]